A while ago I posted on how 3 friends didn’t treat me very nicely causing my anxiety to sky rocket. I got over it after a long time with the help of friends and my counsellor. A year and 4 months later one of them texted me saying the same thing had happened to her and that she now understands what i went through. I politely said ‘I am sorry to hear that and take care’ etc.
She believed me because it happened to her but she was part of it when it happened to me and she didn’t stand up for me when i needed her. I don’t know what she expected me to say after all that time. I even said that adding that we didn’t end on good terms and her response was ‘i understand how you felt.’
Too little too late.
I will not forgive and i will never forget what they put me through
I can’t remember the last time I had a conversation with a guy who generally cared for me. In fact I don’t believe my ex 11 years ago sent me a a caring message that made my heart melt.
Actions speak louder than words and over the years I have learnt that it is true. It is ok for a friend to ask if you are ok by text but does he/she pick up the phone to see if you are ACTUALLY ok? The guy who says he loves you…he doesn’t need to shower your with expensive gifts but he needs to show that he is there for you no matter what.
An ex boyfriend saw the scars from where I self harmed and instead of talking to me about it, instead of letting me open up to him he ignored it. Even when people are in the same room, that sort of reaction can still make you feel alone.
I want guys to be honest with me but when they tell me that they don’t want to be with me because ‘they aren’t ready for a relationship’ it makes me think that they really think that I am stupid. Don’t ask me out in the first place if you don’t want a relationship.
Every experience I have had is a learning curve but i don’t know where or what I am doing wrong because I still don’t get a reply from a message I sent out, I still don’t get a second look. I know i shouldn’t let this get to me but being single can be incredibly lonely especially when every experience hasn’t exactly been positive. I go on a date but there is never a follow up, there is never a date for after the ice has been broken and I can finally be myself. First impressions mean EVERYTHING. I am never confident and so I never get a call back. I am myself but they don’t like what they see. I have put myself in sometimes dangerous situations and still it doesn’t make a difference because when they get what they want they have no more use for me.
Not all guys are like this and maybe I have just been unlucky but 12 years? 12 years of being unlucky. I know i have made some bad decisions and i have missed out on possible chances but right now i feel like there is no hope. I feel unattractive and I have been told that I am. i am unconfident and so I am afraid of making a conversation. I am tired of making the effort of being myself and getting nowhere.
Sometimes I feel happy being single and having an active social life but there is going to be a time where my friends are going to have their own families and I will still be alone.
Nowadays when it comes to finding a potential partner the main factor that will help you attract someone is down to your physical appearance. You have little control on your appearance and everyone find different things attractive.
When I am not wearing contact lenses i have to wear glasses. When i was younger i was considered unattractive because i wore glasses at school. I was and maybe still am overweight and overall i was bullied because of my appearance.
Nowadays what gets me down is the lumps and bumps i have all over my body caused by my NF condition. I have no control over this and in relationships i have been made to feel ugly because of these lumps and bumps. These ‘tumours’ lay on the nerves and i have recently started suffering from nerve pain in my fingers and toes.
After reading up on what can be done i learnt that being pregnant can cause these ‘tumours’ to grow more. Not only is there a 50% chance that there will be someting wrong with my child there is also a high chance of more of these lumps appearing and i have a high number already. You can get them removed but they will grow back.
I am lucky that they aren’t on my face but they cover my stomach and back. After numerous failures with guys they might as well be on my face because I am considered ugly. I am self conscious and extremely shy which so far has never worked in my favour. An ex boyfriend told me they were gross and i should cover them up and ever since him i am worried about the man’s reaction when he sees them.
Rejection because of something we have no control over. It upsets me that nowadays it is all down to physical appearance. If you don’t have that then it doesn’t matter if you are the nicest person on earth.
I know people who get a lot of attention because they are naturally pretty/good looking but this is their power. They know they are good looking and can drop someone they don’t want because they can easily get a replacement. When someonen is naturally pretty/good looking but have a horrible personality doesn’t that make it…pointless? Beauty isn’t worth anything unless it can be seen inside and out. Unfortunately today people would rather see it on the outside and eventhough their heart is as black as coal that doesn’t matter.
I am tired of not being able to look at myself in the mirror because of words that have been thrown at me in the past. Strangers in the street have called me ugly and guys have called me ugly because that is what is important in a relationship, that is what drives someone, that is what makes a man or a woman approach someone they like. I don’t need a man to tell me I am beautiful but I need strangers to stop telling me i am ugly because I feel ugly everyday when I look in the mirror. It almost clarifies it.
I want to be happy with myself, i want to be feel confident with myself.